BEFORE YOU SAY I DO

“It is essential to know yourself before deciding what work you want to do.”*

True love comes from the heart, not from the mind. This is not another single and married piece. Not the ‘I do’ with your spouse or to be spouse but it’s closely related. Practically, before you profess love to someone, you must have developed interest in that person from within, that is, no string attached. And when you show interest in a person, you are professing a fixed allegiance to such, but would you want to show interest or profess a fixed allegiance to the person you don’t love or have interest in? Knowing fully well that whichever person you show interest in, you must give your full and undivided attention to. So also your choice of career.

Therefore, before you say I do to any work or career, there must be an interest first before acceptance. Interest comes from within, so it must first come from within then without. So you must ensure that whichever career or work you want to pick up must be from within you(something you love doing or talented at)not from without, that is, not determined by external factor such as the official car attached to it, pay check or any tangible thing. No external factor must decide your career, the decision must come from within. It must be what you are in love with. That which you are ready to spend the rest of your life doing. As it is not possible for you to divorce the woman you genuinely love, so also, it shouldn't be possible for you to divorce the career you chose. 

That is why before you are joined to your spouse, you will be asked again “do you truly love him/her? Will you be there in times challenges? Will you be willing to stick your neck out? This is because the true test of interest that leads to love is trials and challenges. And if you can stand firm in the stormy sea, then you’re truly in love. So you should ask yourself this same questions, ‘do I really love this career I’m about to choose’ or have chosen? As the case may be. Do I really have interest in this job I am doing? Am I fulfilled and happy doing it? Do I have peace of mind in it? If your answers falls in the negative, click this link www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp to access yourself on the right career to go into ‘BEFORE YOU SAY I DO’.

* The 8^th Habit, p76, paragraph 2.